MEET AVE LOVE
My Expertise
I mentor divorce clients through the divorce process. I support those experiencing relationship loss and grief, even in the aftermath of infidelity and abuse trauma. I cultivate financial, emotional, and communication intelligence in myself and others following extensive self-study and practice. I am experienced in healing, co-parenting, networking, job searching, career development, and higher education. I’m experienced in religious culture and traditions, as well as the angst of faith choices and transitions.
Through personalized coaching and partner thinking, I help my clients identify and meet their needs. I devote myself to helping them with these priorities:
··>> Navigating Divorce Processes
··>> Communicating in Conflict
··>> Healthy Parenting
··>> Financial Stability
··>> New Networks and Relationships
··>> Professional Development
··>> Finding Faith Again
My Experience
The second to last summer we were together, I remember feeling like death. We had moved to a new neighborhood into a house finally big enough to fit our six children. The only problem was we couldn’t get water to the grass and trees. The sprinkler system was broken. The plants were dying. It was a natural mirror. A tell-tale reflection of dried-up affection. The vital resources we needed to survive and flourish were being diverted elsewhere.
Nagging questions involved my children. Would it harm them if I chose to split up? Would it harm them more to stay with a man who had harmed me? Would I disappear even more from the relationships that mattered most, including the one with myself? How could I care for my children if I couldn’t always be with them? How would I provide for myself after being so far removed from my education and professional work? How could I grow in relationship without a relationship? How could I get up every morning? What would I even do?
These questions were easier to defer until the reality of my relationship with a man I didn’t know was staring back at me. I remember when the blinders came off for good – ironically, at exactly the same time I had gone in for premature lens replacement surgery because I had completely lost vision in my left eye. When I came home, I understood. I wept through my therapy session two days later as I grieved the loss of relationship, identity, faith, and family all at once.
I am standing on my own now. My questions are different. What meanings will I make of my life? How will I deepen them? What does my work look like? Who will I serve now? The answers to these questions are gradually unfolding themselves as I surrender to things that are out of my control. I’m granting myself permission to navigate from my inner compass. I’m finding support for the first time in my life, and recognizing mutuality and the lack of it. I am claiming the rights and responsibilities that make an adult life. I’m staying in motion, moving beyond the worst possible times to become my best self. And I love that girl!
My Process
During each session I strive to develop trust, cultivate the client’s awareness and realizations, celebrate progress and wins, and always look forward to the future rather than getting stuck in past stories and dynamics.
We will co-create an evidence-based flow to get to the C.O.R.E of the matter by:
- C. Celebrating wins. Identifying concerns. Concentrating on one issue at a time.
- O. Exploring options, resources, and additional expert support.
- R. Reflecting on values, vision, and reserves.
- E. Outlining effective actions and executing next steps.
My Promises
··>> Better discernment
··>> Better decisions
··>> Better communication
··>> Healthier parenting
··>> More self-esteem
··>> More confidence
··>> More sovereignty
··>> More stability
··>> More support
··>> More hope and joy
··>> More love