What Love Looks Like

I’ve relistened to The Little Prince. I love the Fox’s teaching to the prince: “Anything essential is invisible to the eyes…It’s the time you spent on your rose that makes your rose so important.”

What I feel right now is not something I can put into words for you to read. This makes sense. Love is intangible, sadly often unseen. However, it is always accessible, even when we are alone. We feel as much love as we generate.

I invite you to feel love today by choosing to make your love visible in some way. Can you stop fidgeting and scanning the room while your child recounts their latest video game triumph? Can you willingly pick up some forgotten item for your spouse from the grocery store on your way home? Can you delay your reaction to Other’s failing or weakness until your thoughts and emotions meld into a harmonious response – one that moves your relationship forward, beyond old fence lines and timelines?

This is the generative potential of love – of you. It lives only inside you and can’t be borrowed, bought, earned, or demanded from another. “It’s the time you spent on your rose that makes your rose so important.”

Love on.

My own wings were not for such a flight
Except that, smiting through the mind of me,
There came fulfillment in a flash of light.
That my volition now, and my desires,
Were moved like wheel revolving evenly
By love that moves the sun and starry fires.

-Dante

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FAQs

1. How can I choose love when I feel hurt, angry, or betrayed during divorce?

Love doesn’t mean accepting mistreatment—it means choosing kindness, setting boundaries, and prioritizing emotional healing for yourself and your children.

2. Why is responding with love important, even when facing conflict or rejection in divorce?

Choosing love fosters inner peace, prevents prolonged resentment, and creates a healthier co-parenting or personal healing journey after divorce.

3. How can I separate my emotions from my actions during difficult divorce moments?

Pause before reacting, focus on long-term well-being, and practice mindfulness to ensure your responses align with your values.

4. What are practical ways to show love while maintaining boundaries in divorce?

Communicate with respect, avoid blame, and focus on solutions. Love includes self-respect, emotional protection, and prioritizing a peaceful future.

5. How can divorcing parents show love and sensitivity to children experiencing their own divorce journey?

Acknowledge their feelings, provide stability, and reassure them it’s NOT their fault! Keep routines consistent, encourage open conversations, and shield them from conflict and criticism to create a secure, supportive environment.